How old am I?
I believed I was in fact ugly and unlovable, a hopeless misfit doomed to get everything wrong when it came to other people. I have been struggling to rid myself of an old and well-established habit that no longer… Continue Reading
girlfriends
In my life I have been blessed with many female friends, women with whom I am close and have been close for a number of years. I have two friends I have maintained contact with since I was 15… that’s… Continue Reading
3:05 Reset: Small, Daily Check-Ins
One of the hardest parts of practicing mindfulness is remembering to practice. We can sit in meditation, where we learn how easily our mind becomes distracted, but even if you practice everyday, meditation is usually only a brief period of… Continue Reading
Seeking Education
I have read many self-help books over my lifetime, starting when I was 22. The Way of the Peaceful Warrior (Millman) was the first. Hard to say whether it was my existential crisis that drew me to the book, or the… Continue Reading
True Learning.
The events of the past 4 months – pandemic, brutal violence against black citizens, protests – create an environment where we are all being forced (willing or not) to learn new things, difficult things, hard things: how to live and… Continue Reading
Revolting Body
I have spent a lot of my life trying to whip my body into shape. Dieting and exercise have been necessary evils, and injuries – especially those originating from exercise – along with a history of digestive issues and food… Continue Reading
Rocks & Resilience
Rocks of Despair. The day after writing my piece on slower is faster, I found myself mired in hopelessness. I woke later than I wanted, having slept through my alarm. I felt grumpy and out of sorts, and wrestled with… Continue Reading
Slower Is Faster.
“Slower is faster.” When I heard this yesterday, I thought, yes – like “less is more”: a paradox ripe with meaning and an apt description of what I am contemplating in this time of physical distancing and sheltering in place.… Continue Reading
“What was I thinking?”
“What was I thinking?” I wish this question was easier to answer. I have spent years trying to get to know my own mind. As a child I was praised for my intellect, and I relied on thinking my way… Continue Reading
Self-Care is NOT a Luxury
“Self-Care is not a luxury. It is a human requisite, a professional necessity, and an ethical imperative.” – John Norcross & James Guy, as quoted by Dr. Amy Eva I have been thinking about this quotation for more than a… Continue Reading